The short answer is a doula provides physical and emotional support to a mother during pregnancy, labour and beyond.
On a much more personal level this is what I think a doula does:
A doula supports a mother and her tribe (partner and siblings) in the amazing transition from woman to mother, or mother of one to mother of many.
Emotional Support
A doula brings a wealth of non-judgmental, evidence-based knowledge to a mother and her partner so that they can make informed decisions about their journey. A doula listens – really listens – to what is important to the mother and her family, respects their choices and helps them navigate all the options available to them.
A doula empowers a mother to be confident in her decisions about her body, and to be her own advocate. A doula holds the sacred space in your labour room and keeps the focus on the mother and baby.
A doula cannot guarantee a particular birth wish, but she is there for you every step of the way during this unique journey. A doula knows that the journey doesn’t end after you have announced your baby's arrival on social media; she supports you well after the flowers stop arriving.
A doula cares deeply.
Physical Support
A doula is at your labour and birth supporting you for the labour you want. Massaging you, bringing water and snacks, wiping your brow, moving your body, breathing with you.
A doula is there after your baby joins you earthside, getting your clothes ready and helping you into the shower. A doula does all the little things like cleaning up the room, getting food and and a well deserved cup of tea for you, whilst you and your partner are in a love bubble with your new baby.
A doula never replaces your partner. Instead she supports your partner during this magical time to be the ultimate birth partner.
Postnatal support includes breastfeeding support, sibling care, housekeeping, delicious meals and treats, someone to hold/burp/rock your baby to sleep while you shower, sleep, run, play with siblings etc. Or someone to play/feed the siblings while you are busy breastfeeding. The list of support goes on and on.
Everyone deserves a doula.
It takes a village.
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